An age-old challenge for society and for couples, or even colleagues in the workplace, is the business of relationships.

We are all different, of course, having been exposed and influenced through our lives by various experiences. Put two or more different people together and, at some stage or another, communications may become ‘sticky’!

An obvious, yet key component to relationships working is the ability to communicate effectively with each other.

It’s sometimes interesting to draw the parallels between how we behaved and interacted when we first met our partners, or colleagues, how courteous and considerate we probably were with how many of us communicate in later months and years.

Hold that thought!

Do you now come anywhere close to communicating today – with how you once did? Of course not.

We take our eye off the ball, take each other for granted, and regard everything else as more important.

However, is it?

How much happier might you be…if you re-learned how to engage with each other again?

It’s not that simple, and it’s pointless blaming ‘the other side’, because it really does take two!

Therefore, communications are important, and so is ‘understanding’ and ‘expectations’. Learning how the ‘other’ person thinks and might ‘feel’ about things may uncover why they react the way they do.

The female of the species may want to talk immediately about a problem that has arisen. The male will as likely as not want to retreat to his cave, metaphorically speaking, to calm down and consider the possibilities to resolve the problem.

When neither is afforded the opportunity to re-examine how they are often programmed to do as they do, arguments and ill feelings erupt. Then communication may be lost, apart from the other negative stuff unleashed.

This is just a snapshot of some of the reasons why we do what we do. Nevertheless, we need not stop there and do nothing. Help is available through relationship therapy and counselling.

For more information, or to discuss a discovery session for couples or individuals, contact me, Bob Brotchie at angliacounselling.co.uk – Tel: 01638 563 222 – or email [email protected]

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